Sexual Devastation In Our Culture
When I was the pastor of a church in Washington, we had a season
held a monthly midweek worship service. One emphasis at these
was to listen for God’s voice speaking to our hearts. We all get so
busy in this
life that our communication with God can become one-directional.
On one such worship night in 2013, I heard the Holy Spirit whisper
to my heart that both thrilled and scared me. I questioned whether I
heard correctly, so the next day I shared with a trusted friend.
“Last night as
we worshipped,” I explained, “I feel like the Spirit told me that
one day I
would exceed Dr. Ted Roberts.” My friend listened patiently, and
thoughtfully replied, “If that’s what the Lord chooses to do, why
At the time, Dr. Ted was, and still is, one of my true heroes in the
faith. In 2010,
when our marriage was teetering over the edge because of my
addiction to pornography, it was Dr. Ted and Diane Roberts who
wife and me back to safety. Through their patient encouragement, and
beautiful combination of grace and truth, my wife and I discovered
healing that transformed every area of our life. The entire culture
church shifted because of the message of Pure Desire and the
In my mind, God had anointed Dr. Ted and Diane to be a catalyst of
the church nationwide—helping a bunch of us “uptight evangelicals”
understand how God’s grace could be applied to the deep struggle of
pornography, and sexual addiction. Dr. Ted’s influence made him a
the faith for me and countless other couples who had experienced the
redemptive work of Christ through his ministry.
This story—this whisper from the Holy Spirit—came back to me two
when I was asked to join Pure Desire as the Executive Director.
heard wrong,” I thought, “Maybe the Spirit said I will succeed Dr.
exceed!” Whether or not my time with Pure Desire ever exceeds Dr.
Roberts is completely in the Lord’s hands. But like Elisha to
Elijah, my deep
desire is to continue—to further and deepen—the pioneering work that
Ted and Diane have begun.
For those of you who may be less familiar with Pure Desire, the
began an intentional season of transition more than three years ago.
Board of Directors, along with Dr. Ted, recognized that the time had
begin handing the leadership of Pure Desire from the Roberts to a
next wave of leaders for the future growth of the ministry. Over the
number of months, Dr. Ted and Diane have graciously backed away from
organizational leadership, public engagements, and other national
I am so grateful that they continue to serve the organization as
counselors (Dr. Ted and Diane focus primarily on ministry couples),
advisors to myself and the Board. Their wisdom, experience, and
continue to form the soul of the ministry, even as the body takes on
shape for a new era.
My wife and I are both humbled and amazed at this work we get to
lead. It is
truly an honor to steward such a great work that has begun; we feel
equally, to continue the message of hope and healing to the local
This is our commission from the Lord and we are eager to see where
lead! We have found a place of belonging in a church community and
excited that God has led us to a place where we can use our story
connection to Pure Desire to help birth the ministry in more and
churches across the world.
Like I did back in 2013, I will continue to listen for God’s voice
me. I will lean on many––those that make up the Pure Desire family––
discern that voice and the way forward. While a full picture of the
future is a
bit hazy, I am confident of this: God has positioned Pure Desire to
significant player in the church’s battle against pornography and
This is a fight we must, and will, win. If left unchecked,
pornography and the
gamut of sexual struggles will continue to undercut the message and
relevance of the church to render us ineffective. But, when men and
discover real freedom and begin to walk in lasting change, the world
them takes notice.
Together, we can change the tide of sexual devastation in our