How To Safeguard Love Beyond the Honeymoon
It’s hard to write an article on a subject worthy of a book.
Hallmark tried with their romance Christmas movie marathons! But one
stood out for its theme and title: The Perfect Christmas Present.
Frustrated Christmas shoppers, especially men, hired a Mr.
Christmas to discover the supreme gift for their loved one. But one
young lady touched Mr. Christmas, deeply. He found her boyfriend
knew nothing of her inner wishes and desires. When asked to name her
favorite song, he nearly dropped dead to learn it wasn’t hers, but
his! And she began to rethink her choice in men. The movie begged
the question. Is it possible to spend time with someone and never
discover their likes, dislikes, hurts, fears: song, or bible verse?
Do we listen? Are we listened to, and are we observers? Unwavering
companionship past the “honeymoon” isn’t easy. But there’s a way to
imitate Almighty God’s profound, perfect affection He has towards
us. Our Creator of the unfathomable Universe says, Come, I have
secrets to share with you, alone (Jeremiah 33:3, NKJV). First,
whispering to our loved-one those inner-passions, hopes, and dreams
will build a secure, and trusting environment. The Majestic,
Glorious Lord protects and comforts us as He’s: in our midst to
save; to watch and rejoice over us, yet gentle enough to quiet our
spirit, and sing over us with His love (Zephaniah 3:17). Second,
paying close attention to physical, and emotional needs firmly
strengthens us to withstand the world’s pressures together.
Over-extended schedules and agendas are never in God’s equation
for an atmosphere of closeness: whether we rise or lay-down, our
thoughts, our paths; our actions are forever in His sight (Psalm
13). Third, paring down our busy lives helps to keep us attentive.
At the top of His guidelines are: Restoring relationships. (Psalm
51: 16-17). Fourth, keeping healthy uncomplicated communications
from petty differences begins with a simple, “I’m sorry.”
Christ readily laid aside the Glory of Heaven for a cross: While
we were yet sinners [flawed, imperfect] He laid down His life for
our sins (John 3:16). Fifth, for love, will we give up something
important to us willingly, or with a grudge?
And God affirms this love: nothing on earth or heaven, or in any
other created thing, will separate us from His adorations (Romans
8:38-39). Sixth, nor should jobs, health, finances, family, and
etc., come between two sweethearts.
The book will wait, for now we have starting points to revive us
in what drew the young woman, and Mr. Christmas together. With our
life partner, and God’s ultimate directive guide, discuss, and
address the unheeded areas starving from emotional emptiness of the
heart. This type of intimacy penetrates beyond the physical, and
will last down to our final breath when our lover’s hand of “70”
years, rests in ours: Full of happily-ever-after memories.