Thanksgiving Brings Hope for Today-1671
by Tonie Koonce
No doubt about it, we live in a complex, challenging and unpredictable
world in 2017. The paradox seems to be that all of the good in mankind
is shining brighter as it compels us to reach a towards a more
glorious, loving, and giving God. Yet, the existence of devastating,
perilous harm in so many forms is getting darker like a pitch-black
cloud that tries to plummet us into a helpless despair over the evil
plaguing our current days. But still, still I am thankful and hopeful
for today, another day of life.
I began thinking about how thankful I am now for each day, despite the
turbulent times, as I remembered a past when I was not always entirely
content. Recently, Pastor Craig Brown, one of the Pastors at the Heart
of the City Church, excitedly asked the congregation in his sermon,
“We are There!” to wake up and realize that today is the day we should
celebrate and enjoy. He encouraged us not to wait until we finally
retire at 89-years-old to play all the golf we always dreamed about on
Saturday morning; just to discover that now both our knees and back
hurt and we have to sit in our recliner and watch another episode of
“Let’s Make a Deal,” while glancing wistfully out of our living room
window dreaming about another beautiful sunny day that could have been
spent on the links.
While Pastor Craig continued his sermon, a poignant tug at my heart
caused me to I look around the church at all of the happy couples with
their adorable children. My mind drifted back to my life as a young
mom with four beautiful children living on a breath-taking, scenic
30,000 acre rural Montana cattle ranch that my remarkable husband
managed. It was an idyllic place to raise a family. And yet, yet I
should have been more grateful during that special season of my life.
Yes, there were long, hard 16- hour- work days that often raced
forward for weeks without a break. Our young family’s budget was
frugal; powdered milk was often a household staple (sufficiently
healthy but not a gourmet delight, right?) And as every mom can
imagine taking care of two grade schoolers, a preschooler and a baby,
is both, “the best and worst of times,” as Charles Dickens said.
However, extreme exhaustion was layered with much incredible happiness
throughout those years. So, my circumstances were not the cause of an
occasional lack of appreciation for all of my blessings.
Reflecting upon that period of my life, though, did help me determine
two particular reasons for my slight discontentment. First, I did not
completely delight in every minute of that time because I was never
“fully present.” As Pastor Craig said, I was never happy where I was,
because I always had my eyes on future. As my children were growing
up, I sometimes functioned on a survival mode. If I could recapture
those years, I would enjoy the journey more. All of those
irreplaceable years really did go by too quickly. The best advice I
would give any parent is to love each day of your children’s lives-to
be all in, all of the time, right where you are, emotionally,
spiritually, mentally and physically.
It’s somewhat funny now, to remember how desperate I used to be for
our annual vacation to visit my husband’s parents in Colorado. Every
day I thought about, dreamed, and planned a wonderful twoweek trip in
January. However, inevitably the kids would get sick, the weather
would be too cold or our daily routine would overtake our plans, and
typically, no one actually had a memorable experience. It was like
drooling over a fast food drive- through menu, imagining a delicious
meal. Then receiving your order and discovering that a sack of a cold,
greasy cheeseburger, soggy fries and a guilt-laden soda doesn’t really
fulfill your expectations. Big build up, followed by degrees of
disappointment!
What I know now is that if you are not happy where you are, chances
are you won’t be happy anywhere. Also, Pastor Craig pointed out in his
sermon, when you choose to be thankful for the
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present, enjoying every minute of your life, “you are already there.”
You are free to be happy now; you don’t have to live a suspended
existence forever.
Failure to accomplish personal aspirations was the second cause of my
frustration in earlier years. My own little demon sat on my shoulder
everyday with the same tormenting tirade, chirping in my ear:
“You’ll never achieve your dream of becoming a writer. You’ve failed
in all of your plans. Could of
.. should of ... didn’t, that’s you Tonie.” My everyday companions
were condemnation, regret and negative thoughts. I was internally
stressed about future achievements and judged myself as unsuccessful
because certain life goals had not been achieved.
The major problem with my dissatisfied mind-set was its huge price
tag. I periodically sacrificed the enjoyment of my present everyday
life because I was obsessed about getting to where I wanted to go. In
reality, when I failed to embrace and appreciate the “here and now,”
it kept me from having the energy to create the future of my dreams. I
was essentially defeating myself by putting life on hold until some
potential point in time when my career ambitions were attained.
Fortunately, sporadically feeling impatient to attain personal
aspirations did not ultimately impair the most important role in my
life: to be the best Mom, I could be. Jacqueline Kennedy was right
when she said: “If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think
whatever else you do matters very much.”
But I digress. There is a reason why I am now filled with more
gratitude and hope. I made a conscious decision to change my attitude
about enjoying the gift of everyday life. As Zig Ziglar, a
motivational speaker, said: “Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire,
surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the
most life changing.”
What if I asked you this question, “Today are you ready to start with
thanksgiving, living the life you have always envisioned would be
yours? If the answer is “no” to this question, what are your reasons?”
Are you wasting today because of anxiety over your future? I hope not,
because I have learned and many wise people have said: “This life is
not dress rehearsal.” It says in the Bible, “What is your life? It is
even vapor which appears for a little time, and then vanishes away,”
James 4:14. Besides, you have today; but you are not guaranteed
tomorrow. As I have shared in this column, after hearing Pastor
Craig’s sermon, which started all of this introspective analysis in
the first place- I made the decision to start enjoying my life now
when I chose be thankful for all of my present blessings.
Instead of keeping your eyes fixed on the future, maybe you are unable
to stop living in the past?
Stevie Nicks in her song, ‘Landslide,’ sang, “I been afraid of
changing because I built my life on .... “ What?
What keeps you thinking about the past, rather than creating your own
new, incredible present-day life? Regrets are a waste of time. Today
is the only day you can change. You might as well, rejoice and trust
God to redeem all of your past mistakes and failures as you live the
best life you can at this point in time.
Or maybe, as mentioned before, the condition of our current world
grabs your attention and it’s hard to accept. You quickly realize that
its multidimensional intensities of good and evil will not likely meld
into a utopia any time soon. On one hand, ISSI is marching on with its
evil terrorism, trying to suck the rest of us under it black, dark
eternity; along with other daily increasing worldwide malevolence.
Yet, my husband and I witnessed first-hand the loving care that the
teenagers working the nacho station at the Heart of the City Church’s
{HOCC) “Harvest Festival” showed to all of the children in their fun
costumes. God is on the move and His simple and complete love still
makes this world worthwhile.
However, there are so many extremes buffeting our thoughts and
external reality, that we just have to decide to be happy today,
anyway. Time stands still for no one. While life may never be perfect,
it is always a wonderful opportunity; a chance to get be positive and
think about things that are good, excellent, praiseworthy, lovely and
true.
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And the opportunity to get your hopes up for good things to happen. A
few of the goals I want to accomplish include: seeing my grandchildren
who live in Virginia Beach, VA more often, finally getting my two
novels published, and to continue avoiding all political discussions,
forever.
No matter what happens, my perspective and attitude have definitely
changed and now every day I try to remember that, “This is a day the
Lord has made and I will rejoice and be glad in it,” Psalm 118:24.
Again, I want to acknowledge that Pastor Craig deserves the credit for
waking me up!
But there is one last reason which motivates me to be filled with
gratitude. Living in beautiful Idaho and having the chance to love and
help others around me creates a life full of amazing possibilities.
So, yes, I will always, always be thankful and hopeful for each new
day-for today as my Lord Jesus lives out Our Father’s Kingdom will
through my life by the power of the Holy Spirit. It doesn’t get any
better than this, baby, living large in for God in Idaho.
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