It’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play the game.
Don’t rejoice when your enemies fall. Proverbs 24:17
A well-played game is one that ends well. A well-ended game is
determined by how its players handle winning or losing. Sulking is
unsportsmanlike. So is gloating.
In the wide world of sports, such conduct is not only frowned on, but
forbidden. Recently the NCAA instituted a new unsportsmanlike conduct
rule prohibiting “any excessive act by which a player attempts to
focus attention upon himself.”
Self-centeredness is unsportsmanlike.
True sportsmanship, on the other hand, is humble, generous and
considerate. Good sports understand there is more to the game than the
final score. They value relationships as well as results. They make
sure to shake hands before leaving the field. After all, they could
face each other again someday.
We’ve seen plenty of “unsportsmanlike conduct” in recent political
competitions. And not just from the players, but spectators as well.
When results come in, my first instinct is to steer clear of social
media and avoid the reaction of the masses. I have no desire to
witness gloating or sulking.
When a particularly controversial issue was decided last year, though,
curiosity got the better of me. I took a chance and returned to the
online arena—and couldn’t believe what I saw. No gloating. No sulking.
Just dignified joy . . . or gracious regret. And a willingness from
both sides to reach across the ideological divide and shake hands.
That night I caught a rerun of Facing the Giants and heard Coach
Taylor’s game-changing words: “If we win, we praise Him. And if we
lose, we praise Him. Either way we honor Him with our actions and our
The Psalmist puts it this way:
Some . . . boast of their chariots and horses, but we boast in the
name of the LORD our God. Psalm 20:7
It appears the real contest is decided not by winning or losing—but by
worship. Seeking salvation from the scoreboard is a dangerous game.
When we idolize the victory and overlook the Victor, we are sure to
gloat or sulk. And bad sports are not likely to honor God or each
What a game-changer it would be if we looked away from the game and
back to God. After all, He has already scored a decisive win that will
stand for eternity. His son endured the agony of crucifixion and death
to deliver us from the agony of defeat. We can all celebrate the
thrill of victorious resurrection. There’s no more reason to sulk or
And as members of His team, we are called to model good sportsmanship
to a lost world.
The season isn’t over yet.
But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord
Jesus Christ. I Corinthians 15:57