Part of the responsibility of being a father is to establish a strong
foundation for the family. Just like a building foundation, much of
this work goes unseen and rarely gets acknowledged, yet the strength
and integrity of the entire structure relies on it. The following
intentions, although not always perfectly fulfilled, give us guidance
in our mission.
Grounded in Reality
While my children may put me on a pedestal, I have my feet firmly on
the ground and acknowledge my own strengths and weaknesses.
I take the time to know and understand the best way to communicate my
love to each and every child. My children see my love for my wife
By honoring and never ridiculing the thoughts, emotions and actions of
my family, each member clearly experiences and understands my great
respect for them.
My family is comforted and anchored by my predictability. My deepest
values are consistently demonstrated in my speech and behavior.
My family knows that I am extremely curious and love to explore and
learn. My spontaneity is consistent. We plan with flexibility, and the
children look forward to unexpected adventures.
My children see how I prepare and follow through, owning up to my
responsibilities. They learn by my example.
I take safety very seriously and my children know it. They have
learned by my examples, for instance: I always wear a helmet when
skating, skiing or bicycle riding, and I take first-aid and CPR
classes. Our car does not go into motion until all seat belts,
including mine, are on.
My children know that I stand behind them and will protect, defend and
honor them at all times. I do not discuss my children''s failings with
I deliberately use humor liberally to lighten stress and lubricate
relationships to ensure a cohesive family.
WYSIWYG What you see is what you get.
I practice what I preach and that includes accepting human frailty and
mistakes. The greatest foundation for a family is living with integrity.
Copyright 2004 by CoachVille, Dovid Grossman and Ken Mossman
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