Two Ways to Live
By Rick Cadden Associate Pastor of Administration and Operations Columbus Avenue Baptist Church
There are two ways to do almost everything: the right way or the wrong
way; the quick way or the fast way; the clean way or the dirty way;
the slow way or the fast way; the quiet way or the loud way; the easy
way or the hard way. It is our choice which method to do something and
the outcome is determined by the method.
Recently our senior pastor challenged our church to reach out and meet
people outside of our normal group we commonly associate with. In
other words; go meet people and get to know them. I loved the idea
and took the challenge. The challenge is to meet five new people each
week by getting to know their name and one thing about them. That
makes you go further than just saying hello and keep going. The
challenge involves taking the time to make an effort to get to know
people more. So, let me give you a few scenarios that illustrate this
challenge.
For eight years Bob Taylor and I would spend our Wednesday morning
making hospital visits and then lunch before heading back to the
church. Bob was our Senior Adult Minister and I was the Business
Manager at the church we served. Bob never met a stranger. He could
walk into a hospital patient room having never met this person and
leave encouraging them and praying with them. His first step was to
introduce him and me to the patient. That way we were on a first name
basis right off. Bob had the incredible gift of encouragement and
prayer. Everyone he came into contact with, he would ask their name
and then ask if he could pray for them. That was of course after he
encouraged or complimented them. So, here is a typical day with Bob
Taylor.
We arrive at the hospital to the information counter to get a room
number for who we were to visit. After getting the room number he
would tell the person what a great job they are doing today and how
much we need people helping find room numbers. We would proceed to the
elevator and on the ride up he spoke to at least one person, most the
time each person in there with us, and would encourage them. He had a
keen sense if they were burdened or not. Once we arrived to the floor
of the patient, he always spoke to everyone in the nurse’s station
either in passing if they were busy or he would stop to visit if they
were idle for the moment. Keep in mind Bob Taylor is the most
courteous and polite person you will ever meet. We arrive to the
patient room and knock. After a signal to enter, once in the room Bob
is speaking to any family that is there making his way to the patient.
The visit is short and to the point with prayer before we exit. Of
course on the way out and through the hospital, he speaks kindly to
everyone thanking them for a great job they are doing. That’s just the
hospital visit!
Our normal routine every Wednesday after hospital visits was lunch.
This was the fun part for me and always a blessing. He had this once
restaurant that he would go to every day if it was up to him but he
would always ask me where I wanted to go just to be nice. I chose
different places but many times I would choose his favorite and it
would light him up. No matter where we ate, he caused a scene.
First let me tell you what happened at his favorite place the first
time he took me there. We walk in and he greets the hostess by name
and gives her a hug. She seats us and then the waitress calls him by
name and gives him a hug. She takes our order and then a tall guy
comes by and he and Bob talk a few minutes. The guy mentions an issue
with his family and Bob stops and says lets pray about that. So that
is what we do right there at the table in the restaurant. I asked who
that man was and it was the store manager. The waitress brings our
food out and Bob asks her if she has anything we can pray for and she
mentioned her daughter. We all three join hands and pray for our food
and her daughter and a few other things. As we leave lunch that day,
all I here is “see you later Bob” by a dozen people. I am amazed and
blessed by that lunch and soon learned why that was his favorite
place.
This would happen where ever Bob and I went. He is the most uplifting
and encouraging person you will ever meet and prays all the time
anywhere and for anyone. When I first arrived on staff at the church,
I was brought by Bob’s small office and was introduced to him as the
new guy. He smiled big, stood up, and said lets pray for Rick as he
joins our staff. Great first impression I would say!
Bob knows everyone and everyone knows Bob Taylor. He became my mentor
and father figure here on earth. For eight years I was privileged to
serve with him and for eight years we visited the sick and ate lunch
together and met people. He introduced me to everyone we met. What is
cool is the days he could not go visit I had to go alone. I found
myself being like Bob and meeting people, talking to people on the
elevator, and addressing the nurses, and complimenting people along
the way. It just came natural after being with Bob. I loved that and
it made me feel good inside that I was reaching out to people.
One day we got a call that Bob’s wife, Mary Jane, was in ER. Word
spread fast and when I arrived at the hospital, there were a dozen men
there waiting for Bob to arrive waiting to lift up Bob. Mary Jane
passed away that day and before we knew it Bob was praying with the
doctors and the nurses telling them what great work they did in caring
for Mary Jane and doing all they could. Here we were to console Bob
and he was consoling others. He knew May Jane was in heaven with
Christ and now his job was to encourage and lift up the doctors so
they might know the love of Christ. There is no stronger witness that
telling others at the loss of a loved one that they are ok in heaven
and that God loves them.
Even though Mary Jane was gone, Bob never gave up meeting people and
praying and encouraging people. Bob sold their house and moved to a
retirement center. The story does not end here. Bob already knew the
workers there from making visits there. They loved Bob and loved that
he was now living there. Soon everyone knew Bob and he started a Bible
study there and soon became their chaplain by default. People would
come to his room asking for prayer and when he was in the dining hall
they would stop Bob to ask for prayer. He purposefully rented a two
bedroom set up so he could dedicate one room to his books and desk and
be a room for counseling and prayer.
Let’s get back to the title of this article; there are two ways to
live. We can live life every day and never meet people or speak to
them or care for them or get to know them. We can do our own thing in
our fast pace culture and get by just fine. Or, we can be a Bob Taylor
and speak to people, care for them, pray with them, know there name
and find out about their lives. It is our choice!
Here is another true to life story and its about me. I am a man of
habit and I go to the same places over and over. For the past several
years I mentor a child at an elementary school on Wednesdays. I
specifically chose that time when asked to be a mentor because it
reminds me of my days with Bob Taylor on Wednesdays. After I mentor I
eat lunch just as Bob and I did for years. I go to the same restaurant
and eat the same thing every week. For the past year the same lady is
behind the counter waiting on me. The difference is I don’t know her
name and know nothing about her. Bob would never have allowed that. I
have become lazy forgetting there are people all around me hurting
with no hope yet I do nothing? Since the recent challenge from our
pastor about meeting five new people each week I was reminded I need
to start acting like Bob Taylor and sharing Jesus with everyone I
meet. I need to learn that lady’s name that waits on me every
Wednesday. A few weeks back I went off course and ate there on a
Tuesday. When I walked in, that same lady spoke to me and said “you
are early”. I didn’t know what she meant. I was another restaurant a
lot and the same lady brings the food out almost every time. Why do I
not speak encouragement to her or ask her name? I go to the same bank
all the time and yet I never ask the teller their name or get to know
them. I see the same check out person at many stores I go to often
over and over and yet I don’t know them. That is one way to live but
not the best way and not the way Christ would have us live.
See, there are two ways to live. You can go through your life never
meeting people, never getting to know their names, never learn
something about them and be unsociable and never get the opportunity
to share Christ OR you can go through life meeting people, encouraging
them, praying with and for them, learning their name, and being a
positive influence in others. I chose the latter way to live. What
about you? More than likely you are reading this article while sitting
in a business with people all around you. Did you speak to them, learn
their name, learn something about them, encourage them, or reach out?
Try it out and may be amazed at their response. I am challenging you
and me to be like Bob Taylor is still today. I don’t live near Bob any
longer but when I visit or call he always says how great those days
were for him when we visited the sick and ate lunch every week. He
still prays and encourages and meets people and knows them by name.
What a way to live! Bob Taylor made the choice to live like Christ and
share His love to everyone he meets not matter where and when. There
are two ways to live; which are you living?
Rick Cadden
Associate Pastor of Administration and Operations
Columbus Avenue Baptist Church
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